Sex, dating and intimacy after breast cancer with Charlene Douglas

I know what it’s like to have your sex life turned upside down by breast cancer treatment. I’d only been married for a couple of years and neither my husband Dermot or I were prepared for what was about to happen. I wanted him to divorce me and find a woman with 2 healthy breasts and a libido to match.And I know I’m not alone.

You’ve sent me so many questions about this that have made my heart break just reading them, and I’m thrilled that we’ve got Charlene Douglas with us this episode to answer them.

Charlene, aka The Intimacy Coach UK,  is a  sex and relationship therapist known for her TV appearances on Married at First Sight and The Sex Clinic. She delivers workshops for Macmillan about cancer, sex and intimacy, and she talks about the importance of getting to know ourselves again before we even speak to our partners.

 

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Here are the websites Charlene mentioned:

OMGYES -  https://start.omgyes.com/

Ferly - mindful sex - https://weareferly.com/

Climax.how - https://climax.how/

The College of Sex and Relationship Therapists can be found here - https://www.cosrt.org.uk/

And The Menopause Charity is here - https://www.themenopausecharity.org/

More information about Ohnuts - https://www.jodivine.com/products/ohnut-classic-buffer-rings?page=2

And there are loads of brands of sex cushions out there - just search ‘sex cushions’ to see some options.  

 

Charlene’s website The Intimacy Coach UK contains information and resources for anyone struggling with questions about their sex life - and details of how you can book therapy sessions with Charlene herself - https://www.theintimacycoachuk.com/

 

And she has a book coming out! You can pre-order it here:  Come Closer: Everything You Ever Wanted to Ask a Sex and Relationship Therapist: Amazon.co.uk: Douglas, Charlene: 9780241678879: Books

 

You can also find Charlene on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/charlenedouglasofficial/?hl=en

 

And join Charlene’s Facebook group for women here - Pleasure, Fun, and Intimacy! - For Women Who Want More. | Facebook 

 

Charlene also contributed to the booklet  ‘Pleasure & Intimacy: A Guide for People Living with Cancer’ which you can download here - https://issuu.com/fruitflycollective/docs/sex_cancer_book

 

My amazing  podcast poet is Donna Ashworth and you heard  a poem from her new book ‘Wild Hope - available now in all online bookstores. You can find out more about Donna on her website, or follow her on Instagram and Facebook

 

You can also watch this episode! Head to my Youtube channel @DrLizORiordan to see this season’s episodes as they are released and lots of other useful videos full of reliable information. 

 

And that’s the last episode in this series! Thanks so much to everyone who’s sent a question and sorry that I haven’t been able to include all of them. 

 

If you’ve got a question for Season 3, then please get in touch online or send me a voice note. 

 

You can find me on social media  -  Instagram, Twitter and Facebook, or e-mail me at hello@oriordan.co.uk . 

 

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And another place to find out more about breast cancer is my book ‘The Complete Guide to Breast Cancer: How to Feel Empowered and Take Control’. If you’re nosey and want to find out more about my life, my memoir  ‘Under The Knife’ - is also available in all good bookshops.

 

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I’ll see you later this year for Season 3 x